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Rites of Passage
By Indigo Girls
Ghost

Okay, I know we all want to find that special person, but I have come to the decision that that are some of us that do better to just stay on our own.  There are many reasons for this, perhaps we are too difficult to please, live with, be around, etc. I also think that the fiercely independent find it hard to open up and share anything.  It's such a foreign concept and doesn't seem to make any real sense for any long expanse of time.   Anyway, in my infinite wisdom, I've composed a list of the top 11 reasons why it's good to be alone.    

TOP 11 REASONS IT'S GOOD TO BE ALONE  

1.  You can look how you want.

2.  You can eat what you want.

3.  You can do what you want.

4.  You don't have to check in with anyone

5.  You can buy what you want.

6.  You can develop a confidence level so high, no one can touch you.

7.  You get the whole bed.

8.  There are half as many things to wash.

9.  You have less of a chance of getting hurt.

10. You can hang out with whomever you choose without worry of the "jealous boy/girlfriend" shit.

11. It's just so much more relaxing.

12. No one wlking in on you when your in the middle of poopin'. (Submitted by Kenneth, approved by me.)

I realize this may sound harsh, but as I can only say that I wish someone would have slapped me when I was 17 and said, "No!"  "Live your life for you, and then you'll find the perfect companion along the way, and if you don't, than who the hell cares?"  

Granted, I don't think less of anyone in the quest for love, why would I?

I have my moments of weakness as well, but then I realize that I am not a person that's "relationship material "so to speak.  Most of the time, probably 95% of the time, I'm okay with that.   I mean, I just don't have the right stuff to be with someone for the long term.  I can't hack it, and I'm just too used to being alone at this point, to be any good in a relationship type situation. 

The truth hurts, but it's better to admit and know than to hurt too many people in the process.    Those few times I've allowed myself to need anyone, to depend on them, has blown up in my face.  Not all...but most.  

 Even the best of friends willl abandon you for "love;"  don't doubt it.  I've seen it many times.   Well, that's it for now.  Reality 101 will close for the day.  Take what you want and leave what you don't.    It matters not to me.